I’ve taken some major steps in launching my business over the past few weeks.
Okay, let me back up a bit…
If you’ve been reading The Feisty House for a while, then you know that I have wanted to start my own business for a while now. I’ve had a ton of ideas (I had an apparel company, then I was a blog coach at one point, and most recently I’d started designing home decor). And I’m currently working as a health policy director and advocate at a nonprofit while waiting on God to show me how I can both fulfill my purpose and support myself financially.
Well over the past few weeks, after lots of ups and (mostly) downs and thoughts about quitting this blog and ending this journey to create my dream job, I had a bit of a breakthrough. I started a re-brand of my social media channels (you can find me @byKrystalElaine instead of @thefeistyhouse) in order to make space for the new project. I wrote my mission statement and got some amazing feedback from my tribe, which felt really good. And I took some new photos to use around the internet (thanks to the husband). But even with those successes, I was in a funk that kept me from getting anything else done. For every two steps I took in my business, negative thoughts and feelings took me one step back. I’ve felt it all: feelings of inadequacy after taking a year off from blogging and social once I got pregnant; feelings of jealousy from looking around at how much further ahead everyone is; feelings of frustration because I just don’t have as much time to devote to building a business as I used to; and lots of feelings of “Why even bother?”
If you’re like me, everything starts and ends in your head. Before I fail at anything in real life, I’ve already psyched myself up to fail in my mind. The same is true when I have a win; when I’m successful, it’s because I’ve told myself that I can do what I’ve set out to do. Those of us who live in our heads need to be extra careful not to entertain feelings of doubt, inadequacy or fear. Starting a new business is hard enough as it is! We don’t need our own negative thoughts sabotaging our shot at our dream job.
How to Stay Positive While You Build Your Business
It’s so important to maintain a positive mindset when you’re starting or building a business. This stuff isn’t easy, and negativity will just make it seem even harder (or downright impossible). So to give ourselves the best shot at successfully starting and building our businesses, below are a few things we can do to get our minds right:
I’m so much more positive when I start my day with prayer and meditation. When we look to God first before anything else, we have no need to feel anxious or fearful. There’s no room for feelings of inadequacy when you know He’s making sure everything is working in your favor. My best days start with early morning prayer (about 5:00 AM). I know that one of the reasons why I’ve been feeling stressed out and having so many negative thoughts is because I haven’t been putting God first.
Praying throughout the day is also a great way to maintain a positive mindset. Inevitably something is going to come along and try to through you off your game. In that moment, rather than give in to feelings of negativity, take a few deep breaths and say a quick prayer. That small gesture of gratitude and mindfulness will work wonders for your mindset!
Spend Time Alone
I’m introverted, so if I don’t get some time to myself to recharge, I can end up in a pretty negative space. But even if you aren’t introverted, spending time alone (and away from social media) can help you gain perspective and let go of negativity.
I’m in such a good mood after a run. Because endorphins. Because accomplished. Because outdoors. I haven’t gone for a run in almost two weeks, so no surprise I haven’t been in the best mood. If you find your head spinning with negative thoughts, go for a run, head to the gym; do whatever you can to get your mood-boosting endorphins flowing.
Get Enough Sleep
When we don’t get enough sleep, our brains aren’t functioning at their full potential, so we’re likely being overly critical and overly negative as a result. It’s hard to stay positive when you’re too tired to think straight! My goal is to shut down my computer at 9:00 PM, head upstairs by 9:30 PM and be asleep by 10:00 PM and get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night. Yes, it’s hard to prioritize sleep when you’re starting a business (especially if you also have a full-time job or a family), but you’ll be much more positive (and more creative) if you get a good night’s sleep, so start making it a priority!
Reach Out to Family and Friends
When it isn’t enough to try to work out your negative thoughts on your own and you really need to get out of your own head, try talking to encouraging family members or friends who can remind you of your strengths and help you focus on more positive things. If you feel negativity has become your norm, it may also help to talk to a professional counselor about ways to curb your negative thinking.
Do Something Else
Sometimes you just have to take a break and do something that isn’t related to your business. This is what I like to call “healthy space.” Take as much time as you need (whether it’s a few hours or a few weeks) in order to start feeling good about what you’re doing again.
How do you like to stay positive as you build your business?
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