LIFE | What’s Your “Why”?

October 6, 2015

What's Your Why? | The Feisty House

Welcome back!

The Feisty House looks a little different, doesn’t it? Thanks for your patience as I tackled this redesign and refocused the brand. I am so pleased with the results and so ready to take The Feisty House to the next level.

Which brings me to today’s post…

What’s Your “Why”?

When I was on vacation in South Africa last month, I had a lot of time to think clearly and receive new inspiration and while in South Africa, I figured out my “why.” That realization has been the basis for a few changes I’ve made in my life in the past few weeks, including changes to the blog and to its mission.

You see, I firmly believe that each one of us is called to do something special with our time here on earth. Your calling or your purpose is that special job that God has put you here to do, and I feel like God has made my calling “crystal clear.” I know what my “why” is. I know why I’m here, and what I’m supposed to be doing with my time.

  • I know now that I’ve been called to build a community for entrepreneurial Black women who are creative and passionate and looking for ways to build their businesses, network with like-minded women, and make a difference for others through their business.
  • I know that I’m supposed to create a platform for Black women who own their businesses to share their experiences in entrepreneurship and mentor other women who want to do what they did.
  • I know that I’m supposed to show young Black girls that entrepreneurship is an option for them to pursue and that the possibilities are endless once they take ownership of their own ideas.
  • I know I have been called to create a place where this vibrant community of women who read this blog can gain the inspiration and encouragement they need to see their potential, step out on faith and build their own businesses.

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I feel a sense of direction that I’ve never known before. I feel confident that I know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life. I know why I’m here and what I’m supposed to be doing, and that sense of purpose is what’s driving me to accomplish the goals I’ve set for myself for these last few months of 2015. Knowing my why has also helped me prioritize certain activities: it’s easier for me to focus on what I should be doing and ignore potential distractions.

We’re heading towards the end of 2015, but finding your why isn’t something that you need to do at the start of a new year. You can start now! Decide that you’re going to invest the time it takes to actively discover your purpose. Be willing to adopt new ways of thinking and be willing to try new things. Keep an open mind and accept the fact that finding your purpose could take some time (months). Prepare yourself to accept your why: about a year ago, I decided that 2015 was going to be the year that would change my life for the better. I’ve been reading lots of self-improvement books, I implemented a daily routine to help keep myself motivated and active, and I stepped up my prayer life. All of these things helped me to get into the right frame of mind for discovering and then working within my purpose. It’s also a great idea to document this journey for yourself: keep a prayer journal, a video diary, or a private blog. You’re going to learn so much about your dreams and goals in this process, and once you’re on the other side of it, it will be so rewarding to look back and see how far you’ve come. Another option is to invest in a life coach to help you through this process and keep you motivated. I haven’t used a life coach before, but I’m seriously praying about partnering with one in 2016 to help me stay on track now that I know what my purpose is.



Let’s chat…

Are you currently trying to find your purpose in life?
Do you already know your “why”? I’d love to know what it is and how you discovered it!

Leave a note in the comments! XO



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  • Agreed. It can be hard to find your “why” mostly because we allow a lot of brain chatter to get in the way. Suggestion? Keep it simple. Look at it like a mission statement for your life. Ask yourself what are you passionate about? I’ve always loved fashion and have since I was a kid (I taught myself to sew). Its taken me in some of the most amazing directions and I have been every kind of Designer you can imagine. The “why” has evolved over the years. Now I’m teaching. Who would have thunk? lol!

    • Yes, great points! The “why” can evolve over time for sure, and you could end up doing lots of different things before you get to your goal, but you’re right: KEEP IT SIMPLE. Thanks for sharing!

  • This post is dead on! I feel the same way like for the first time I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be… doing what I love and helping young women in the process. I’m so happy for you, seeing your growth over the years is so inspiring! Thanks for continuously sharing I can’t wait to see what’s to come for you 🙂

    • Thanks Fatima! Isn’t it amazing to just know that you’re where you’re supposed to be?!?! I’m here for all your success and progress, too. When you hit 10K subs on YT, I was like “YAY!”

  • Sam! I’m so here for a lunch date. Just tell me when and where =)

    One of my best friends is one of those hipster earthy Southern Cali Christians! You must let me know when your site goes live =) Over the past few years I’ve been growing through some experiences that have changed my outlook on spirituality and how I view my relationship with God and what that means for “practicing” Christianity, so I’d be really interested in reading more about your experiences.

    As far as being a serial entrepreneur, you’re definitely coming of age in the BEST time for entrepreneurship, specifically for social change. I’m excited for your journey! Please keep in touch.

    Thanks for the comment =)

    • I will, I am still building on the idea in my idea journal, battling between creating the website myself and paying someone. I’ve just spent a fist on pre-MBA preparation, networking and traveling to Yale, Cornell and all these other east coast schools from California and it was expensive. I’m trying to hold off on the major work until after I submit my applications.

      I’m hoping I land in a good role social investment role for a few years before I launch my first two brick and mortar projects. Lets see where it leads, I have faith things will end up as they should be.

  • writelaughdream

    The hardest part for me is the commitment to what I know my why is. Like you said you have to learn to shield yourself from the distractions and that can be very difficult to do. I am trying to stick to the fact that I want to create community for women of color to grow in life, love, and chasing their dreams. I want to teach people about God’s love and how it is the vehicle to everything else they want to accomplish. And I want to help writers get what’s on the inside out of them. I want to help writers find their voice.

    • Dearest WriteLaughDream,
      I hear you! Commitment and sticking to it can be so tough. If I might suggest a work thru? Get something down on the calendar and be firm that it be honored. Its a way of reminding you of your goals and tracking your progress. Maybe start small like finding an aspiring writer to mentor? One-on-one can be just as impactful as some of the bigger dreams. 🙂

      • writelaughdream

        Great suggestions. I actually do commit well to my goals. I think my bigger is issue is staying committed to a limited number of things I want to do. What happens to me is someone releases something cool and I’m like “I want to add that to what I do.” LOL. So execution is simple for me. It’s adding too much to my plate that’s the issue! 🙂 I actually host a writing workshop in Philadelphia with a group of 10-15 writers which is an amazing experience.

        • LOL we have the SAME ISSUE. Too many ideas, too much ambition…but maybe not enough restraint? LOL. I feel your pain!

    • You are SO NEEDED in the writing community, Ashley. I’ll pray that God helps us BOTH with being better committed now and through 2016!!

  • Ooh Krystal I just love this post! I’m so glad that you discovered your purpose, it’s such a liberating feeling. I honestly believe that I am here on earth to impact millions of women to be free to create the life they desire. I also know that my story is part of my purpose. I am here to help women shift their mindset and start to believe in their dreams. Knowing my purpose in life is one of the best things that has ever happened for me because now I am crystal clear on what I should be doing and who I am here to serve.

    • Siobhan, you are 110% living your purpose! It’s so obvious…you’re AMAZING at what you do. I pray that I can become as consistent as you are. I feel like the sky is the limit once I conquer my inconsistency.

  • Thanks a million! I really appreciate it!

  • Nureka Findlater

    I 100% love this blog new layout and design. Crispy clean and aesthetically appealing. Great job! Looking forward to tuning in 🙂

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  • Knowing your purpose; a key to staying mentally strong.