This week I made a huge decision, one I had been going back and forth about for a long time. And I know for a fact that it was the right decision to make, even though it’s not exactly what I’d planned to be doing. I’ve been so anxious and stressed the past week (hence no posts on Wednesday or Friday), but when I finally made up my mind, my anxiety just melted away. I’m no longer stressed because deep down I know I’ve absolutely made the right decision.
But how? How do I know for sure?
// I prayed about it.
That’s always the first step. Decision-making gives me anxiety (because who wants to make the wrong one?) so I’m constantly praying to God and asking for guidance and wisdom. Thinking about a new job? Pray about it. Not sure about that relationship? Pray about it. Deciding when to have kids (or not?) Pray about that too. Bring your questions to God. When you pray and trust that God is going to give you an answer, that’s exactly what He does.
// I asked family and friends for advice.
“Refuse good advice and watch your plans fail; take good counsel and watch them succeed.” While I was praying, I was also talking to my family and friends about my plans and the decision I needed to make. Before making a final decision, I spoke to three people: my husband, my father, and a trusted colleague who’d been in my position before. Those three conversations helped me to see past what I wanted and be objective about the pros (and cons) of each scenario I was considering. When you’re making a big decision, seek wisdom and counsel from people who have your best interest at heart and who are willing to be objective. The people in your corner shouldn’t be afraid to tell you that you’re making a terrible mistake.
// I asked for confirmation.
There have been times after I’ve made a huge decision that something happened in such a way that I knew the decision I’d made was the right one. So for example, on Thursday night I made this huge decision and I felt pretty confident about it. On Friday afternoon, I got an email that was so unexpected, so random, but yet so specific to the decision I’d just made on Thursday that I was completely blown away. It was confirmation that I was on the right track. That confirmation may not always happen right away, but when it does, it’s such a blessing. I was already pretty sure of my decision on Thursday, but after what happened on Friday, there’s no doubt in my mind that I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing, and that’s an amazing thing to know.
We get anxious and crazy about making decisions because we don’t want to do the wrong thing, or miss out on the perfect opportunity, or end up living with consequences of our actions for years to come. It’s totally normal. But what a blessing to know that we don’t have to make these huge decisions without any guidance. Are you about to make a huge decision? Let me know in the comments, and I’ll pray that you make the right one!
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