My hair hasn’t been a priority for quite some time. And that’s because no matter what I seem to do, my hair still breaks and still doesn’t retain any noticeable length. I set some natural hair goals in 2014. The best things that came out of that were (1) incorporating the Cherry Lola treatment into my routine, and (2) wearing protective styles. Cherry Lola made my hair retain a lot more moisture and protective styling definitely helped with length retention. But by the end of 2014, I couldn’t wear another two-strand-twist updo, so I straightened for my wedding and pretty much wore straight hair until New Year’s.
Taking care of my hair is now the most frustrating part of my beauty routine. I don’t enjoy washing it, I don’t enjoy styling it…I do that all out of necessity. My hair is the last thing I do in the mornings before I leave the house. It’s pretty much become an afterthought. It wasn’t always this way, though. The Feisty House was actually a natural hair blog years ago (can you believe it?) and I did a lot with my hair. I enjoyed getting to know my kinks and I enjoyed styling my hair. Now I can’t really be bothered. My hair never turns out the way I want, and every time I style my hair, I’m faced with breakage, so I just pin it up and focus on other parts of my life.
In 2014 I cut my hair in layers (and cut bangs), colored my hair (twice), wore it straight (for weeks at a time) and installed Marley twists. I spent a lot of money on expensive hair products (I bought the entire Kerastase Resistance Bain de Force line and I bought Wen…both have been lying in my bathroom drawer). I was just so bored and desperately looking for something to “work,” and now I really want to go back to basics. I was forced to do this in Thailand: I had no fancy products, just a bottle of Oyin Greg Juice and a small tube of SheaMoisture Curl Conditioning Smoothie, but I actually liked how my hair turned out! It was loose and carefree and I felt more comfortable with it then than I have in months.
This year, my goal is to find joy in my hair again. To pay attention to it and give it room to grow (literally). To prioritize it and not treat it as an afterthought.
Natural Hair Goals for 2015
Accept My Kinks // My natural hair will never curl (that wash-and-go life is not for me), my texture isn’t silky, and it doesn’t look that great with a curly bang (I’m just realizing this now). I think part of my frustration with my hair is that I want it to be something it isn’t. So the first thing I need to do is accept my hair as it is, “flaws” and all.
Start Styling it Again // It’s been a while since I’ve intentionally styled my hair. My hair just hasn’t been a priority for me. But I have tons of rollers and Curlformers and this flexirod and that flexirod…there’s no excuse for throwing my hair into bun right before I leave the house. I want to pay more attention to my hair and spend more time on making it look great.
Go Back to Basics // I know that less is more when it comes to caring for my natural hair. I know I need to finger detangle my hair before I get into the shower. I know that my hair responds when I co-wash twice a week, deep condition with heat weekly, use the Cherry Lola Treatment every two weeks and snip off split ends once a month. I know that I need to moisturize my hair daily and sleep on a satin pillowcase. And I know that carefully sealing my ends with shea butter helps keep them moisturized and less likely to split (and then break!) I know all of this, but I haven’t been doing it, so one of my major natural hair goals this year is to just do what I know I’m supposed to be doing!
Focus on My Scalp // I can’t tell you the last time I really thought about my scalp. But without a healthy scalp, you can’t really get healthy hair. I’ve already started massaging my scalp every other day with a mixture of cayenne pepper and extra virgin coconut oil. My hair also responded a lot better when I used to shampoo my scalp on a regular basis, so I’ll be doing that as well.
Do Regular Length Checks // I understand that length checks cause anxiety for some people, but I need them in order to pay attention to my hair. I’m goal-oriented, but if I’m unable to see any progress, I won’t be diligent about accomplishing these goals. I’m going to start doing monthly length checks and I’m hoping to see half an inch of length retention each month.
So what if I go through this year and nothing changes? Well, I already gave Quentin the heads-up that if I can’t get my hair in shape this year, I’m going to cut most of it off in 2016 and just start over. That’s literally how frustrated I am. So we’ll see…if all else fails, I’ll have a cute curly fro this time next year.
Do you have any goals for your natural hair this year?