Philippians 3:13, 14 (NKJV)
Most of us have done or said something we regret. We find ourselves living with “if only.” If only I’d gone back to school. If only I’d dated more. If only I hadn’t dated him. If only I’d asked for that raise. If only I’d started this business earlier. If only I’d saved more money. If only…
Living with regret doesn’t make sense. We can’t change the past. We can’t go back in time and right our wrongs or make better decisions. But it’s hard not to think about what could be, especially when what’s happening in your life now…sucks. I’ve had my own regrets. I’ve regretted staying in a lame ass relationship (for like 4 years) out of fear of being single. I’ve regretted not having more fun while I was in undergrad. Lately, my biggest regret has been that I never pursued my passions in school. I didn’t trust that I could make a living in graphic design or as an entrepreneur like my father did, so I went the healthcare route. And sure, we’re always going to need public health professionals, but I can’t honestly say that health statistics are my passion.
When you find yourself focusing on your past and becoming fixated on your regrets, stop. Seriously, just stop. The past is the past, and it’s over. Now is the time to set new goals and focus on those. Like we read in our verse today, forget the things that are behind you and start reaching towards new accomplishments. Tell the Lord your regrets, pray about your new dreams, and let Him lead you to an amazing future.
It won’t always be easy; you may have to deal with the consequences of your past actions. It hasn’t been easy for me to get a new business off the ground without having gone to school for what I want to do now, and while working a full-time job in a totally unrelated field. Sometimes I get really frustrated, but I don’t want to live with those regrets of not pursing my passions anymore. You may run into some difficulties based on your past decisions, but you can overcome your regret! Just keep your eyes on the prize, ladies!
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